Help Identifying emotional abuse:
- Have you been with an excessively jealous and possessive partner?
- Was he/ she charming one minute and abusive the next?
- Did he/she have sudden changes of mood – like Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde?
- Did he/she prevent you from seeing your family and friends?
- Did you feel isolated?
- Was he/she constantly criticizing you and putting you down in public?
- Did he/she embarrass you, often in front of family and friends, so that you are seen in a bad light?
- Did your partner play mind games and make you unsure of your own judgment?
- Did he/she tell you you’re useless and couldn’t cope without him?
- Did he/she control your money?
- Did he/she tell you what to wear, who to see, where to go, what to think?
- Did he/she pressure you to have sex when you don’t want to?
- Did you start to walk on eggshells to avoid making him/her angry?
- Did he/she monitor your movements? Or check up on you via your email, Facebook, Twitter or by looking at your text messages?
- Did he use anger and intimidation to frighten you and make you comply with his demands?
- Has your partner ever threatened you, or intimidated you by using violent language or smashing things?
- Were you forced to alter your behaviour because you are frightened of your partner’s reaction?
- Were you blamed for their behaviour e.g. they say you were “asking for it” or deserved the abuse?
In order to recover from emotional abuse, you need to first realise what has happened to you, unlike physical abuse the damage is not so obvious. Please get help and support if you are not sure what you have experienced was in fact emotional abuse and begin the process of recovery.
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